Detachment

Truth ~ you need to be very mindful who you surround yourself with and what you chose to spend your time doing. 😉

Reclaim your presence. If someone doesn’t honour who you are ~ do not feel obligated to ‘put up – fake up – settle – or anything else! You must take care of you. You do not need permission from anyone. 😁

Detachment is all about freedom to be limitless and open to receive your dreams with ease.

I have been practicing detachment because it’s essential for true surrendering to the universe and gives you complete freedom. 💖

E.g.. I’m not attached to my location I call home. I can see myself living happily in other countries. I can see potential in many locations and know I am free to jump through any doors of opportunity that comes my way. I am not holding on ~ im ready to leap and fly when it’s time. 🌴

It’s ok to not follow the society rules of how you should do things. Stop living for other people’s approval. I detached from my extended family. Because most of them were judgmental, negative or put themselves on pedestals. 💖

It’s ok to cut friends off too. I detached from alot of friends who just wanted to gossip about others, judge others and complain about life. I realized being nice to everyone is not acceptable for me. I decided to chose love. To chose positive people and supportive loving friends.💖

Chose YOU. Don’t settle due to jobs, locations, family, or friends. Be FREE. You are here to live your life your way! Self awareness is #1! 💐

~ Rev.Natalie

#truth #love #detachment #nomoredrama #onelove#selfawareness

Do not take it personally

OMG I love this. It is so true. No matter what pain or suffering people put you through, remember no one can truly bury you. Do not let others dim your light. Spread your love and light and continue to grow.

What others do or say about you, has nothing really to do with you. Remember that! one of the 4 agreements(I love the book): “do not take it personally”. People can think anything they want, eg. someone can tell me my eyes are blue. My eyes are blue, my eyes are blue. etc.. But just because they say that, doesn’t make it true. My eyes are green not blue.

Go grow into a BIG willow tree and dance in the wind, reach for the sky and the only thing that matters is whats the truth in your heart.
Trust in your Higher Power, it will never abandon you.
As a child people tried to bury me – I was bullied
As a teen people tried to bury me – I was physically and emotionally abused.
As an adult people realize they can’t bury me. I am a STRONG Goddess that KNOWS my worth and my truth. Stand tall like the tree, firmly embedded in LOVE and LIGHT. Nothing can bury you.

#4agreements #brave #courageous

Self LOVE Painting Party

Art is a phenomenalwomangreat way to connect with your inner Goddess, and create unique masterpieces

Once I went to a celebration of life funeral, for a friends aunt who passed away after a battle with breast cancer.  At the celebration of life event, which had taken place at a magical banquet hall; there were tables of items she loved, and what caught my focus were her paintings.

She painted flowers, circles, and some abstract art, all with her breasts.  It was a way for her to celebrate her feminine body before she removed them. When I seen her paintings, I got inspired. I thought it was such a beautiful gesture to do for yourself. “Why wait for a disease to celebrate your feminine body, and paint with your breasts.” So I decided to host an event for my friends to honour our feminine Goddess bodies and LOVE ourselves without waiting. To step into our sensual side, to paint with our breasts and let go of judgement. Enjoy the process. We all have a formed thought about our breasts. Some of us love them, some of us feed our children with them, and some may also hate them. We think it should be bigger, smaller, pointer, rounder, or firmer.

This is why I wanted to create a party to celebrate being a Goddess. To embrace all of our bodies, no matter how we feel about them. To accept our big, small, saggy, firm, or scarred breasts. I told my friends to bring their own paints and canvas. It was such a sacred event, we all met at a yoga studio. We had beautiful empowering music on, which helped us get in the mood to relax. Then we sat in a circle, it was on International Women’s Day too, which was not intentional, but divine timing indeed.
Before we began, I smudged each of us, and passed around a talking crystal so the other Goddesses can share why they want to do this. It was so beautiful to hear, some said “to teach my daughters to love themselves,” “to accept my body as it is,” “to get over the idea that I should have implants,” “to love my breasts, even though I had breast cancer and have only half a breast left on one side.” It was very moving; my heart was so touched by all the energy in our circle.

I have this crystal that is rough on the outside, looks like a plain, bumpy, dull stone. That is cut in half; in the middle you see beautiful, shiny, clear quartz crystals. I gave a story with the stone, which goes like this:

“We each judge ourselves. We think ‘if only I lost 20lbs,’ ‘I wish I looked more like so and so,’ ‘my butt is too big,’ ‘my butt is too small,’ ‘I am too short,’ ‘I am too tall,’ ‘I am not pretty,’ ‘I am boring,’ and so on. We judge ourselves based on what we think we are, on the surface. It is a bad habit that we picked up in our society. We need to stop judging ourselves, just like this stone. On the outside it may look rough, ugly, and nothing special. But on the inside it’s a glistering star. Just like US. We are all amazing, unique, sparkles of light. We need to embrace our spirit and remember that we are here to love ourselves, not judge ourselves.”
Its true, we can’t judge a book by its cover, we can’t judge a person by the size of their pants, or bra for that matter. We are all special, and need to be confident in our ability to share our love to others and ourselves. Then after we each shared why we were here; we all scattered around the yoga studio, and had our private space to create beautiful masterpieces. It was truly an amazing experience. We placed our paints on a small plate, then we dipped our breasts in the paint. It was like a meditation, as we were all in our Zen, private space just connecting to our Goddess and painting from our hearts.

Some of us were shy, some of us weren’t shy, I made sure everyone felt comfortable. Some of us were moving to the music, swaying our breasts from one side of the canvas to the other. Gliding with ease. While others were plopping their breasts like stamps on the canvas, with confidence. Each of us had our own way of creating the paintings, and it all turned out beautifully. Each of the art pieces looked different and represented each of our unique Goddess power.

It felt empowering because we accepted our bodies fully, and we created a strong magical piece of art that will always remind us of this sacred experience. That one celebration of life event, planted the seed in my soul to organize this Goddess circle for some friends. I received tons of positive feedback, and others are waiting for me to host this again. I think every woman should try this at least once, go ahead. Buy some paint, buy a canvas and go explore your Goddess-ness with your breasts. It was not a sexual experience; it was a powerful, sacred, and sensual experience. Which I would love to host again.goodesslove

Steps for Achieving Balance in Your Life

Finding a balance in life gets more difficult as time progresses. Sometimes it just feels as if I’m living my life according to a ToDo list: wake up, dress, eat, get the kids ready, rush off to work, rush home, make dinner, do homework, get some sleep and then it begins all over again. Hardly the way to find joy and fulfillment, no?

So how can you go about achieving balance, order, rhythm and harmony in your life—without actually winning that lottery we’re all itching to get our hands on?

Step 1: Take stock of your life.

You can’t fix it if you don’t know it’s broken. Spend some time examining your life, your state of mind and your emotions. Are you neglecting areas of your life that are important to you, or to your loved ones? Be brutally honest and make a note of the areas where you aren’t giving enough attention.

a balance in lifeStep 2: Make a list.

For each aspect of your life that is out of balance, identify whether it’s internally- or externally-focused. Group the areas into lists for each, and if there are other ways to categorize them together then do that too. Don’t just list “work” as a broad area that needs balancing—break it up into those aspects you feel are under control, versus those that aren’t. Identify the areas you’re satisfied with and leave those out.

Step 3: Set your goals.

We all know what we’d like to achieve, but just how much of that is realistic? Let’s say you’re spending far too much time working, which is a common problem in this face-paced world of ours. For each area that you feel is out of balance, identify what you want to achieve and then temper it with what you believe is realistic and doable.

Step 4: Make plans.

You know the old saying: “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!” Heaven knows we won’t be eating any elephants around here, but the analogy is a good one when you’re facing the huge task of bringing your life into balance.

Identify one primary action you can take for each item on your list that will help to level the playing fields. Then break it down into the steps needed to make it happen. For example, you’re working late too often and your job is encroaching into your family time. That’s externally-focused, but the advantage is you can probably reduce your stress by taking practical steps to achieve a balance. It might not be practical to stop working late altogether, but if you’re currently doing three nights a week, aim to bring it down to two in the short term.

Now, how do you avoid that third late night each week? It’s essentially a three-hour stretch, so your solutions could include handing off a particular task to a colleague, which can reduce your work time by those three hours. It might not even be the work you’re doing during that time, just a task that will free you up for the same duration. How will you spend the time you gain? This could include meditation, yoga or simply treating yourself to something that brings you joy.

Step 5: Reflect on past achievements.

What have you done in the past that you’re most proud of? This doesn’t need to be an accomplishment in the business world or even the home environment; it could be a personal or spiritual victory that benefited you. How did you go about managing it? How did you deal with fears, doubts and insecurities? What processes worked for you particularly well that you could bring to bear on your current circumstances?

Step 6: Make preparations

Preparing to make changes in your life is always a big deal. Identify the changes you need to make in your thinking, your attitude and your motivation. Determine how you’re going to achieve those changes, and what will it take to make you stick to them. List things or events that could help to push you off-track, and plan how you’ll mitigate those if they occur.

Step 7: Empower yourself to act.

Give yourself permission to take the steps you need to take to achieve balance and harmony in your life. Banish guilt that can sabotage your efforts. Just because you don’t cook every single dinner doesn’t make you a bad mother or homemaker, so empower yourself to take time out for things that are far more important than cooked vegetables!

Step 8: Foster useful connections.

Everyone needs support, and when you’re working to get your life into harmony it’s no exception to the rule. Identify one or more mentors with whom you relate well, and who can be trusted to get you back on track if you veer off it. Explain to your mentor/s what you’re trying to achieve and why; provide him or her with a list of your potential sabotaging behaviours, and your action plans for overcoming them. Set up regular connections with your mentors for reviewing your progress and providing input.

Step 9: Take time for yourself.

Trust me, I know how it is to feel pulled in every direction. As a mother of 4, a business owner, a wife and a friend it’s essential for me to take time for MYSELF everyday, or else I will feel exhausted afterwards. I thrive on balance, though, and everyday I take time to do something just for ME. I usually go to the gym and workout for an hour a day, which my body will thank me for later and which produces natural endorphins that make us happy. Then I take time to play with my 3 year old, who is with me everyday because I work part-time. You can often find me singing songs, playing with lego and reading books to him.

I make sure I spend time with my hubby, watching a movie, talking and sharing life’s stories, etc. We also plan a date night at least twice a month, kid-free! I am known to get a phone call at 7pm and will run out the door to see friends who are in need of an ear to listen too, while we enjoy a tea.

Balance is key for any healthy relationships, for your kids, for your partner, for your friends and MOST importantly for yourself. YOU are worth it, YOU deserve peace. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else.

Remember, it takes 21 days to break a habit so don’t expect to change things overnight. Work slowly towards a balance in every aspect of your life, and you’ll reap the benefits of living in harmony with yourself and everyone around you.

5 Ways to Make Gratitude Benefit Your Health

A popular concept on Facebook these days is to post a daily “Attitude of Gratitude” item. I love this because it makes us stop and think about what we have to be grateful for. There’s actually quite a large amount of scientific evidence available that people who practice gratitude as part of their lifestyle enjoy more well-being than others.

How Gratitude Affects Health

Research from the UK’s Manchester University School of Psychology turned up proof that gratitude can be a stronger indicator of health and happiness than any other character trait. A recent study showed that participants who paid a gratitude visit to someone whom they felt grateful to benefited from a significant increase in their happiness level and a corresponding drop in depression scores.

When we make practicing gratitude a part of our daily routine, it helps us achieve a life full of joy, passion and grace. Here’s how:

#1: Keep a Journal

attitude of gratitudeIt’s easy to forget the things we have to be grateful for, especially as we get older. Make a point of writing down three things every day, and review the journal whenever you’re feeling down. This helps to remind you of how fortunate you are. It also helps to keep you positive and inspires you when you need it. Various studies have shown that when participants recorded what they were grateful for, they achieved lasting improvement in their happiness score.

#2: Express Feelings of Appreciation

When you’re grateful for something, say so. Not only will it help the recipient of your gratitude to understand and benefit from your appreciation, but it will also help to “cement” it in your own subconscious mind. The best way to get more is to give more, and unless you show your gratitude to others they aren’t likely to show theirs to you. So it works both ways.

#3: Walk the Talk

Talking about your gratitude and appreciation is great, but you’ll benefit even more if you walk the talk. Choose someone whose actions have affected your life in a positive way and pay them a gratitude visit. Think of a way to acknowledge them specially for what they’ve done. This could be picking some wild flowers and taking them along, baking a special treat or singing outside their window. As long as your intention is to bring them unsolicited joy, you’ll both benefit.

#4: Look for the Good

There’s a saying in business that goes “Don’t look for things your staff are doing wrong; try to catch them doing something right.” You can apply this to your Attitude of Gratitude, too, by looking for opportunities to express gratitude or appreciation. Be aware of chances to acknowledge those around you, and seize those opportunities to say “thank you” to them.

#5: Remind Yourself Regularly

When life gets in the way and things become crazy, it’s easy to forget the good stuff that you have going on. That’s where your journal can come in useful. Even if you aren’t necessarily able to sit and review it, however, reminding yourself how fortunate you are and taking the time to “count your blessings” will lift your spirits and pull you out of a negative slump. And once your blood is pumping, your heart is singing and you’re at peace with the world, you’ll find you infect others the same way and the blessings will flow back to you.

Try it today. Practice an “attitude of gratitude” for a week and see how it makes you feel.

New Year? Make it a New YOU!

It’s a new year, and a good time to take stock of your life. Where are you going, and how are you getting there? You can start something anytime, not just once a year on January 1st! You can change anything in your life at any time, as long as you have a strong enough reason to change. So how do you go about doing so?

Questions to Answer

Start out by asking yourself some pointed questions such as “why do you want to change?” and “what do you want to change?” Pay attention to your words. Change your ‘trying,’ ‘shoulds’ and ‘maybes’ into MUSTS. The reason for this is that once you change your thought patterns and know you MUST do something, that’s when you’ll finally achieve lasting results. Your reasons for change are the most important step in creating a vision to change.

Using Hypnosis as a Tool

hypnosis for weight lossHypnosis is a valuable tool that can help you to focus on what it is that you want to change. It can help your mind expand and create the results you want.

How does it do this? Because using hypnosis is like planting a garden: First, you have to plant the seed of your MUST into your subconscious mind. Next, you have to water your garden, and you do this by practicing self-hypnosis and visualizations daily.

Daily Nurturing

It takes effort to make sure your seeds get the sunlight and nutrients they need to grow into a blossoming garden. Implement the actions you need to nurture them, such as eating healthily if your goal is to lose weight. Push yourself beyond your comfort zones, do your workouts and change your eating habits, to achieve the results you want.

Do a Little, and Do it Often

Start out with taking small steps in the right direction, and commit yourself to following through. Repetition is important, to break the old habits and teach yourself new ones. Whatever it is you want to achieve—more money, less stress, weight loss, more confidence—all these things are possible if you plant the seeds, water the garden and nurture it until it grows.

Making the Commitment

Hypnosis and self-hypnosis can help you to achieve whatever goal you set yourself for 2015, but you must be the one to commit and do the work. You must change your routine, your thoughts and your habits if you’re going to be able to create a lasting change in your life this year.

Take a look at this video about making progress by Anthony Robbins, and let me know if you need my help to make real, lasting changes in your life RIGHT NOW.

Tony